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Arguing about price causes a distinct
feeling of discomfort for many people. It seems to be a cultural thing. Americans and
Australians dont seem bothered by it so this reticence to negotiate cant be
attributed to English speaking peoples. Haggling over payment appears to be thoroughly
enjoyed in many other countries. The English seem to have made discussing price with a
vendor almost a taboo subject. It would seem silly to ask for a special reduction at the
supermarket checkout but if you visit a street market, even the fruit and vegetable
vendors will barter. The fact that most shop assistants do have latitude to change prices
must be unknown or ignored by the majority. It may be only five or ten percent but
wouldnt the money be put to better use in your pocket? Just ask yourself how much
you spend a year in shops where the person who serves you could have a degree of
discretion over price? For an average family it will be more than £10,000. Suppose you
got an envelope through your door with £1000 in it. Imagine 100 crisp £10 notes in your
hand that are not already consigned to pay a bill. Would you get a little excited? You may
be thinking its not worth the hassle of collecting it in small chunks. Its
embarrassing to be seen bargaining with shopkeepers and uncomfortable to have others think
you cant afford something. Well it is your money and I will not be the one to tell
you what to do with it but what if there is a simple and polite way to ask?
There are two simple phrases that I have used to great effect in both
shops and business negotiations :-
"Are you open to
negotiation?"
"Is that the best you can
do?"
To make these questions work you will need
the magic ingredients. As you speak the question you must be certain in your mind that you
are making a reasonable request to discuss price or to request a price reduction. At the
same time you must have a definite expectation of a positive response. You wouldnt
believe me if I said it always works, but it does work more often than you expect. Next
time you want to buy something significant, perhaps over £50 or £100, try it. Ask,
"Are you open to negotiation?" If you get a yes you make an offer.
Dont be afraid to be extreme. The further
away your offer is from the asking price, the more you effect another persons
perception of what is reasonable. Even experienced negotiators struggle to be unaffected
by this ploy. What have you got to lose? You may feel that you are insulting the other
person or manipulating them. Well they decided on the price and offered the item for sale.
They have the power to say no and it is still your money. You will need to be talking to
the person who sets the price for true negotiation to take place. Shop assistants do have
a degree of latitude on price so the simpler form, "Is that the best you can
do?" is normally sufficient to obtain whatever reduction is within their remit.
Being combative about negotiation may make
you feel underhand and deceitful. Beware because many people believe this is the only way
to negotiate and that to win you must take a chunk out of anothers hide. The truth
is you can adopt the opposite premise or anything in between. Combative negotiation is
based on adopting the attitude I am going to win and they are going to lose or
I am going to win and I dont care if they lose or not. Could you take
this attitude in discussing where to take the family holiday? How about if you had to
arrange the use of shared parking space with your neighbour? In these situations you need
to take account of your longer-term interests. You have to live with the result. If you
force a painter and decorator to take on the job of painting your house for less than he
is satisfied with; he may not do his best work or use the best paint. In any circumstance
where an on going relationship with a supplier is important to you, adopting a
collaborative negotiation stance serves the exchange better. Taking some responsibility
for the bargain being profitable for both you and the other party takes a high degree of
resolution and steadfastness. The classic Win/Win position is not about pandering to the
wishes of the other party or about both of you giving up something. Being equally
dissatisfied with a transaction may be fair but it will not serve either of you. If you
except anything less than a satisfactory outcome you will have adopted a Lose/Win
position. Going after an outcome that satisfies both parties in a negotiation is the most
challenging thing to do. Failure is a very real possibility. Failure must be an option. If
you enter into any negotiation without allowing yourself the freedom to walk away, you are
likely to lose out big time. It is better to accept that the deal wont be done than
to agree terms that are unpalatable to both parties.
Consider a business to business situation where both sides
have given up more than they had intended. The seller may not feel obliged to provide the
best possible service or to deliver on time. The buyer will be less willing to
recommend the seller to others and may feel less obliged to pay promptly. Any
future transactions will be tainted by the memory of past dissatisfaction. Business
success depends heavily on regular customers so the seller cannot afford to go for
anything other than Win/Win. Getting value from a purchase or even making it work as
intended often depends on the good will of the supplier. Prompt and unquestioning
replacement or service in the event of any problems allows the buyer to get on with their
business. The buyer cannot afford to go for anything other than Win/Win either.
The truth of negotiation circumstances may have no influence on a
negotiators determination to win. Adopting a Win/Win approach is the most
challenging and difficult line, particularly when the other party doesnt. "Do
unto others, as you would have them do unto you", as it is written in that very old
book.
Article by Clive Miller
Questions and comments to
clive@salessense.co.uk
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